The ChurchofJesusChrist.org website has an entire section dedicated to addressing pornography. There are subsections for individuals, spouses, parents, and leaders. Included in these sections are many short videos, which are also available now on YouTube. We have collected them here for easy reference and sharing. They are divided across seven pages to make page loading easier for the viewer.
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Taking Care of Yourself and Recovering from a Spouse’s Pornography Use
How to Find Peace from God When Your Spouse Uses Pornography
Finding Your Foundation of Faith When You Discover Your Spouse’s Pornography Use
Why Talking about Your Spouse’s Pornography Use Can Bring Hope
Why You Should Reach Out When Your Spouse Uses Pornography
How Do I Support My Child through Pornography Relapses?
How to Find Peace and Stability While Your Spouse Recovers from Pornography
Understanding Your Emotions and Looking for Revelation When a Spouse Uses Pornography
Dealing with Strong Emotions after Discovering Your Spouse’s Pornography Use
Handling Emotions and Life’s Demands When Dealing with a Spouse’s Pornography Use
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Taking Care of Yourself and Recovering from a Spouse’s Pornography Use
Take care of yourself while recovering from your spouse’s struggle with porn. Life’s demands continue despite our personal trials, such as discovering a spouse’s pornography use. You may be dealing with a torrent of emotions in addition to your daily tasks and responsibilities. This is a lot to handle, and it’s critical that you take care of yourself and your biological, psychological, social, and spiritual needs.
How to Find Peace from God When Your Spouse Uses Pornography
Understand that you are not responsible for your spouse’s behavior and that you are a child of God. When you make your relationship with Him a priority, you will feel His presence. He is always there for you, and He will uphold and bless you as you pray, read the scriptures, and go to the temple. As you draw closer to your Father in Heaven, you will feel His love and guidance.
Finding Your Foundation of Faith When You Discover Your Spouse’s Pornography Use
Rely on your foundation of faith when you discover your spouse’s pornography problem. Understand your true identity as a son or daughter of God. We have the capacity to grow and develop and become like Him. When we understand who we are, that knowledge helps us to deal with every challenge that we encounter in our lives. It is the sure anchor and foundation upon which we can build.
Why Talking about Your Spouse’s Pornography Use Can Bring Hope
Talking about your spouse’s struggle with porn can bring hope. Spouses of pornography users often feel guilty and full of shame. You may think that talking to your spouse and others wouldn’t make a difference, but don’t let guilt and shame keep you from expressing yourself and connecting with others. When we talk about our struggles, we often feel relieved of our burdens.
Why You Should Reach Out When Your Spouse Uses Pornography
If your spouse has a pornography habit, you have a right to seek help and to have your challenges addressed. You are not alone, and there are people who are anxious to help you cope with your struggles. There’s no reason not to seek or receive the help you need for your own recovery.
How Do I Support My Child through Pornography Relapses?
Relapses and setbacks are going to be a part of your child’s recovery from pornography. As these happen, be positive and express your love for your child. Celebrate victories and milestones, however small at first. Help your child repent quickly and come back to the light of the gospel. Elder Jeffrey R. Holland says to “cling to the gospel and fly the flag of hope.”
How to Find Peace and Stability While Your Spouse Recovers from Pornography
When your spouse is struggling with a porn problem, you as the spouse may also have needs that require attention. It’s important to recognize that you may have a recovery process of your own after discovering your spouse’s problem. It can be beneficial for you to meet with your bishop, connect with support people, and practice self-care in a healthy way. Taking care of yourself, doing things that fill you, and connecting with Heavenly Father can help you find peace and stability.
Understanding Your Emotions and Looking for Revelation When a Spouse Uses Pornography
Understand your emotions and look for revelation when your spouse has a porn problem. Nobody gets married or pursues life planning on a problem. Discovering that your spouse struggles with pornography can shatter your dreams and life expectations. Through it all, keep close to the Lord, keep gospel principles first in your life, and keep love in your heart. Seek to find hope and believe that you will find your own way to work through this trial.
Dealing with Strong Emotions after Discovering Your Spouse’s Pornography Use
Discovering that your spouse has a pornography problem can unleash many strong emotions. You may be feeling shock, anger, betrayal, pain, sadness, confusion, or despair, among other feelings. It’s common to react with many different emotions. You are not alone in what you’re feeling, and it’s important to work through these emotions, find healthy outlets, and talk to support people. You may need to find your own recovery.
Handling Emotions and Life’s Demands When Dealing with a Spouse’s Pornography Use
It’s OK to have a strong emotional reaction when you discover that your spouse has a porn problem. You may be experiencing betrayal trauma, sadness, pain, anger, or other emotions. Life’s demands continue despite the difficult emotions you are experiencing. It’s important to take care of yourself and simplify life as much as you can. Remember the strength you have as a child of God.
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