This is a rebroadcast. The episode originally ran in March 2018.

Tom Christofferson is a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints who experiences same sex attraction. He is also the brother of Elder D. Todd Christofferson of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles. Tom grew up in the Church as a member, served a mission and married in the temple. His short marriage ended and he came out as gay and lived that lifestyle for many years. He started coming back to church with Bruce Larson as a bishop and David Checketts as his stake president. His story is told in his book, That We May Be One: A Gay Mormon’s Perspective on Faith and Family, and he has more recently published A Better Heart: The Impact of Christ’s Pure Love.

Tom has spent his career in investment management and asset servicing, living in the United States and Europe. He was a founding board member of Encircle, a group providing resources to support LGBTQ individuals and their families in Provo, Utah. Tom is an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and serves as a Gospel Doctrine teacher in his Salt Lake City Ward. As leaders we can learn a lot from his experience of coming back to church and being rebaptized.

Six smiling men in suits and ties: Todd and Tom Christofferson with four other men including President David Checketts and Bishop Bruce Larson

President David Checketts (far left) and the Christofferson brothers

Episode Highlights

6:30 Tom’s story from the beginning
9:30 His story of excommunication
10:50 How his family wanted their love to be perfect as they accepted him
13:20 Bishop Bruce Larson’s side of the story
16:00 Stake President David Checkett’s side of the story
18:00 Bishop Larson and President Checketts did not know at first that he was related to Elder Christofferson
20:30 Sharing with the ward council how to make feel Tom welcome
22:30 Response of the ward council
24:00 Tom was welcomed and loved unconditionally
29:00 Tom attended the ward for 5 years before wanting to come back to live the commandments
31:45 During the 5 years how Tom felt welcome in the ward
33:20 Everyone focused on the the relationship with Tom and not his progress
34:30 Study sessions with Tom and President Checketts
38:00 Meeting with Tom’s partner
42:00 President Checketts meets with Elder Christofferson about Tom
45:00 Tom Christofferson’s rebaptism
48:00 How this experience has helped Bishop Larson to be a better disciple of Jesus Christ
50:00 How this experience has helped President Checketts to be a better disciple of Jesus Christ

Links

That We May Be One: A Gay Mormon’s Perspective on Faith and Family
A Better Heart: The Impact of Christ’s Pure Love
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