Jody Moore is a life coach and is well-known for her podcast, Better Than Happy. Her background is in corporate training and leadership coaching, and she has a master’s degree in Adult Education and Training. She is a Certified Coach through The Life Coach School and works primarily with women who want to move from good to great in their lives. She enjoys helping people navigate topics such as relationships, confidence, and money, and works to guide them with tools based in cognitive functioning, understanding their own brains, and how emotions drive us to action. Born & raised LDS, Jody followed her own journey to find her testimony. Her husband is her business partner and they live in Spokane, Washington, with their four children.
14:30 Advice for Bishops specifically related to LDS Women: the root of problems stems from not understanding their own value. Women tend to be harder on themselves.
- Love them
- All must be on their own journey to learn and understand worth
- Divide the doctrine from the culture of the church
- It’s ok to feel negative emotions. “Opposition in all things”. Reading, studying scriptures are important but you will still feel sad, mad, etc. at times.
18:45 What do we need to know about feelings to help us appreciate the journey.
- Unhealthy ways to deal with emotions:
- Resisting feelings – we do it, but it is not healthy
- Escaping feelings – we do it, but again not healthy (sugar, alcohol, shopping, pornography)
- Healthy response to feelings/emotions – just FEEL the emotion. Relax into the emotion, breathe into it. It’s ok to be sad, we need to learn to work through the emotions.
23:00 Difference between Clean pain (loss) and Dirty pain (gossip, resentment, natural man)
25:00 Typical trends for women, her 5 pillars in coaching:
- Relationships – women get sense of joy and fulfillment from relationships
- Health – physical, mental & emotional health
- Money – healthy relationship with money
- Confidence – recognizing own value, requires practice
- Contribution – basic human need to contribute to society, sometimes with raising kids, others with working
- Advice for RS president to affect contribution: Ministering requires more spiritual maturity. Keep all “involved in the discussion”.
Church seems a good model for contribution and fulfilment, but many are not fulfilled with this activity. Not “what am I doing” but “why am I doing it” will create feeling of fulfillment.
- Don’t resent what you are doing, life is too short. “People pleasers are liars.” How do we operate in full integrity. We need to work to get to a place where we “want” to do things that are asked. AND – it is ok to say no. Appreciate being asked, but it’s ok to say No. Find a loving reason to do things.
- Culture of the church is prescriptive, the Doctrine of the church is NOT. We need to be careful when we make decisions, that we are following the doctrine and less concerned about the culture.
39:45 Advice for leaders to stimulate healthy Relationships:
- We are aware of people outside of us but we cannot control them. We can control ourselves. “Who do I want to be in this situation?” How do I feel about me when I think poorly of this other person? How do I want to feel?
- Realizing that we can’t be for everyone, but we can still show love
46:20 Health – we are healthy in relation to the rest of the world. Culture of the church hangs on to the “no’s”, but we need to see individually what in our own lives is disconnecting me.
48:50 Money – helping people get to a more abundant mindset, realize all you have. It’s not about having more, but doing with what we have
52:20 Confidence – difference between pride and confidence. We are all equally valuable and we are always told “you are a child of God”. We need to believe that and have that relationship with ourselves. We need to speak to ourselves as we would speak to our sister. Don’t deflect. Confidence doesn’t mean we are good at everything but owning and embracing all parts of ourselves.
- How can leaders use resources such as life coaches vs. counseling? Make recommendations, direct to free podcasts, webinars.